Created by Marriage Mentors For Marriage Mentors

We Equip You to Help Struggling Couples

We Want to Help You Mentor Couples

Connected Marriage was started by marriage mentors. We used to be in your shoes. We wanted to help couples, but we weren’t even sure how.

Honestly, we weren’t even sure we could help. But, we’ve now impacted hundreds of couples and we want to share our experience with you.

Over ten years and after thousands of hours of research, we developed this material. But, we also wanted it to be Biblically based and psychologically sound. We recruited a team of pastors and mental health professionals to give their input. Their experience is also contained in this material.

This is the tool that we wished we had all along.

“No matter what your trouble is, Connected Marriage can be the tool that you need to turn a struggling marriage into one that’s thriving.”

Melissa, Marriage Mentee

“The program is so comprehensive in how it’s built and laid out that it really does change your marriage. We are transformed.”

Steve, Marriage Mentee

“What I really liked about this program is the comprehensiveness of the different tools. We were entering at a time when we weren’t in the best place and we definitely needed some help.”

Jessie, Marriage Mentee

Let Connected Marriage Equip You.

We Train Marriage Mentors

Connected Marriage provides step-by-step training to help you mentor. Remember, this is marriage education. Your role isn’t to fix a couple’s problems, it’s to educate and to help the couple apply the key concepts explained in the online learning.

You simply assign an online lesson to complete before the next meeting. After the couple completes the lesson, the you receive a customized report to use as a guide during the next meeting.

You receive:

Access to the 6 hours of mentee training based on over 25 key concepts
6 couple reports, 1 for each meeting, filled with customized insight for the couple
Suggested questions to ask for each meeting
Mentor guides for working either with a group or an individual couple
Over 3 hours of interactive online training on how to mentor
Insight from mental health professionals

Would You Make a Good Marriage Mentor?

Marriage Mentor Qualifications

We’ve trained a number of lay people to be effective working with couples who are struggling. Here’s what we look for:

Growing in faith and able to pray with and for others
Committed to your marriage
Working to improve your marriage

A marriage mentor is in a leadership position inside of the church. Are you committed to Christ? Are you growing in faith? Are you able to pray for others?

We look for mentors that are committed to their marriage and working to improve. This may seem like a low bar. We have found that some of the best mentors are couples that were struggling in their marriage and are now working on healing. If you have struggled in your marriage, your experience can help others. Helping another couple actually helps you to heal. Your wisdom and story of how you got through a tough time can provide hope for others.

Marriage Mentor Values

Know Your strength.

Your strength is from God, not your own experience or your own knowledge. Sometimes, the best thing to do is to empathize and to pray.

Get real. Get healed.

We are able to heal when we are able to be honest with God, ourselves and with others. We prefer marriage mentors that can be transparent. You set the tone for how transparent your mentees will be. Being honest sets an example and creates a safe environment for vulnerability.

Your pain, their gain.

In I Corinthians 1:4 it says, “…the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God.”

Your biggest challenges in your marriage can become your biggest opportunities in helping others to heal. This is why we love to have mentors that have struggled through issues like affairs, addictions, disconnection and poor communication – basically, any issue that another couple can relate to.

Thou shalt not fix.

Beginning mentors are great at giving advice and fixing. But, it’s often not very effective. One of the biggest challenges in becoming a mentor is not immediately rushing to advice. It’s much better to get a couple to find their own answers. Get comfortable with uncomfortable conversations.

Be better at asking questions than giving answers.

Stay curious. Your couple will own the solution much more if they come up with it themselves. The role of mentor is more about asking questions to raise awareness.

We are not cookie cutters.

What works for me may not work for you. Every couple needs to figure out what works for them. You can explain how you do it, but be open to allowing their solution to be different than what you would choose.

I am me and you are you.

You don’t own the couple’s emotions or their problems. You can’t fix them. You’re not responsible for their success or for their failure. You can pray, be curious and encourage them. You can help apply the key concepts and best practices, but they own the work.

Would you like to experience it?

Here’s what’s inside:

Learning that is more effective than just video alone
Overview of the topics
Lesson samples
Testimonies by couples and therapists
An explanation of the couple reports
Overview of the Step-by-Step Mentor Training

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